Last week we pierced our
6-month-old daughter’s ears. In most of the
U.S. people would ask, “Why?” But in
Miami
the question is: “Why did you wait for so long?”

I never pictured myself piercing my baby’s
ears. I am not Latino.
I grew up in
Massachusetts, where I
had to wait until I was 10 to get my ears pierced at a salon. My mother didn’t
pierce her ears until she was well into her 40s, having been told by my
grandmother that only gypsies had pierced ears. But my daughter Amalía is half
Nicaraguan. Nicaraguans pierce the ears of female infants in the hospital.
It is traditional for a baby girl’s
godparents and family to give her earrings to show how adored she is. In
Miami, a baby can be
dressed up in pink, but if she doesn’t have earrings, people will still call
her a beautiful baby boy. Was I wrong to deny my daughter something that the
community around her thinks is a God-given right for a female? I wanted her to
embrace Nicaraguan and
Miami
culture, but I was worried about what my mother would say.
When I took Amalía in for a
checkup and asked our pediatrician about infant earrings, she told me that she
refused doing piercing for years, but she knew of a baby whose aunt pierced her
ears in the hospital right after she was born, when nobody was looking.
Because desperate relatives were performing secret
piercings in hospital rooms and risking infection, the doctor decided to make a
“Miami Compromise”. She began offering “beauty visits”; no medical tests or examinations
were performed, but she would pierce the baby’s ears, only if she was
vaccinated and at least 3 months old, and the earrings used were one of the
sterilized infant pairs her office provides.
The doctor shot the gold studs we
had picked out into our baby’s ears. Amalía cried for a minute — less than she
did for the flu shot. Then she smiled as we started taking pictures.
“She looks great,” the doctor said
before leaving the room. “But I can tell you guys aren’t from
Miami — everyone here goes with the fake
diamonds.”
The American Academy
of Pediatrics (AAP) suggests that parents wait until their daughter is
old enough to care for the ear piercing herself because infants are at higher
risk of infections and may accidentally put the tiny earrings in their mouths. If you decide to pierce your baby’s ears, the
AAP recommends that your baby gets a tetanus shot at two months, and you wait another two weeks before piercing. Some doctors
recommend waiting until all regular vaccinations are completed (15 months)
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Eleni N. Gage, New York Times